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Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Guest Blog Post From Sadie

This is the first guest blog post with more to come. This is a great way to see many more perspectives:

"One day you were born. Another day you smiled, babbled, hugged, kissed. Rolled, crept, sat, crawled. Laughed and played for daddy. One day you walked... and ran the same day. One day you said "hi", "mama", "daddy". Another day you didn't. One day your eyes were laughing, one day they wore shutters. Someone said "is she deaf?" One day I held you so long for just one look. One day your brother played peek-a-boo for me. One day he pointed. One day, week, month, year he smiled at you. Once you looked...another time you smiled...laughed...and tickled him!! One day he talked, potty trained, made friends. Some days you banged your head till it bruised. One day you ran so far so fast my heart stopped in time. Some days you listen to my voice. One day you finally played peek-a-boo with me. Some days you smile in the sun, jump, swing up to the sky, swim like a fish, ride the horse like a trapeze artist. Some days you do good at school and smile all day and your classmates take good care of you. One day you touched your dog and now you hang on. Some days you cry... all day...every day... at the hardness of this world. Today and every day you are daddy's princess. Some day someone will "find a cure". Which day will it be for you? Soon enough to matter? Or too late because you will already be perfect?

I wrote this once about my daughter. Some people hate the word cure, but I would take a “cure” in a heartbeat for my daughter’s autism because it traps her inside her nonverbal self and causes her pain. Our journey has included many therapies: Gluten free/Casein Free diet, chelation, Greenspan’s play therapy, horseback riding, swimming, sensory diet, school services since 2, speech therapy, service dog, psychiatric meds for bipolar and self harm, temporary residential placement, in home staff, sign language, PECS…..and ABA therapy with potty training! Most of all a trampoline, swings, and lots of music…all the time! None are perfect but all are steps in learning. Two things are most important for us. Faith in the redemption of all of this someday and learning to care for ourselves and the whole family in balance. Today we are in a good place. When she is stable my daughter is joyful, often interactive, sometimes affectionate, and always moving. She likes her brothers and pets. She has wild curls I would have died to have at her age. She is so beautiful. I want her to always be safe and happy. In the more immediate I want her new ipad to open up her world and her to be able to play in Special Olympics because she is good at shooting hoops!

These are just some bits and pieces of our life. Blessings to all."

Monday, June 3, 2013

Praying Autism Away?!, Blessings, Thankfulness, Breastfeeding....and A Little On Guilt


Praying autism away?!:

I know I have had some this discussion on Facebook before, so I apologize if you have seen it on there before. I am a Christian. I do believe in miracles, but to tell me that I should take my son to a prayer room to heal him of his autism to me is inconsiderate. I have been told the staff at the nursery (both the volunteers and the actual paid staff). I have been told to take him to the healing room for his gluten allergy and my gluten allergy as well. The way I feel is I would not be allergic to wheat among the others if it was not genetically altered by....humans not God. I am just fine not eating wheat. Then when it comes to the autism. I love Josiah just the way he is. I am sure if God wants him to advance he can do so through his therapy. In many, many ways Josiah is different in a REALLY GOOD way! As challenging as it might be at times with him having autism, it makes him who he is and made me the mother I have become today. I do not see it as a curse to be healed but as a blessing. I accept Josiah for who he is, ALL of him, not just I accept you, but not your autism so I am just going to pray it away. I have accepted he has autism. Like I stated before the way that kids with autism view the world differently should be a wake up call to the rest of us. They seem to be closer to God then we are. Most special needs individuals seem to be. They are not as selfish and many other characteristics that not only make them beautiful in their own way, but usually more beautiful then we can be when the flesh has clouded our judgment/decisions/choices for life. 

Blessings:

Most parents do not appreciate the little things when it comes to their children. Things like daily smiles, hugs, eye contact, and their children just talking to them. I am thankful for every smile, every time he looks me in the eyes or anyone for that matter. I am so happy he connected with his swim instructor so nicely. That was so nice to see. 

Thankfulness:

I am also SO very thankful for our breastfeeding relationship. Not many parents who have the same issues we have/had were able to continue. I do not feel I am extended breastfeeding, but just doing what is natural and what has been done from the beginning of time. It is God designed and does not need help from man(formula). I am thankful there is formula to help babies who have no access to breast milk. I helped a couple of families by donating breast milk to them to help them get some of the much needed goodness that breast milk is.

Less then a month


The switch:

I feel so strongly about breastfeeding I even switched from a church I attended for seven years. I was asked to either cover or leave the sanctuary and at the time my son was eating every 30min and with the extended service they had there meant that he was eating 2-4times while there and if he fell asleep there was no way I was going to wake him up to return to service. I should not be force in a BOX to not be allowed to worship GOD the one who created breastfeeding just because as they put it: "I agree with you that breastfeeding is completely natural and shouldn't offend people when you do it. However, because the original sin corrupted the world, people are corrupted. Not everyone agrees about breastfeeding... you know this. The general concensus of our culture is this: Breastfeeding should be a modesty issue. If you wouldn't show someone your breasts when not breastfeeding, they shouldn't see them when you are breastfeeding." Well, because society does not agree with breastfeeding I should not do it???? Yah, society also believes getting drunk is fun....are they going to jump on that band wagon as well someday?!?! Of course when I was going through a tough time with Josiah's tongue tie I was also told to just bottle feed by the same people instead of receiving words of encouragement and love like you should from your church family. I am still hurt by this. Why, because they were like a second family for seven years of my life. They were my first church I attended for a long period of time. They were there when I got married (the pastor was the one who married us) and Josiah's baby shower. Though I was obviously not fully accepted and was doing nothing wrong/was not even doing anything sinful for the reason why I was not accepted. Heck, even if I was sinning, I do not think that pushing me away and not letting me in church would be the answer! Church is for sinners not perfect porcelain dolls! These kinds of views is the reason most people do not breastfeed for that long. The rate in America is so sad. It is only in America that breasts are viewed as such a sexual thing. No where else is it as big of an issues to breastfeed in public. Even in countries where a women covers herself head to toe besides her eyes for modesty can breastfeed in public! 

10 Months


TWO YEARS!! 


14 months-Used in breastfeeding calendar
14 Months
 July nine  will mark two years of breastfeeding for us, but I am thankful for every feeding every day and I am so happy we continued through tongue tie, lip tie (and all the issues that came with having both those issues), getting both clipped, dairy issues, reflux, anemia, premature birth, autism. Knowing how great that breastfeeding is for children with autism makes me even more thankful for the relationship. He is not very lovey/cuddly, but we have nursing for now. Even if it lacks in that eye gazing wonderfulness I see other mom's experience I am still very grateful for it. Even if he does not smile up at me, even though when he can not sleep at night he nurses half the night until I feel sore I am still grateful for that time we get together and that he getting good stuff for his brain. We have chosen to do baby led weaning and I would not change that decision or the decision to breastfeed and continue to breastfeed for anything.


22 Months

A must watch movie

Books I have enjoyed reading that have helped after finding out my son has autism:


D Iz for Different
 
This one describes a lot of stuff for any special needs parent goes through, well for any parent for that matter. There are a lot of good things even non-parents can pick up from this book as well. One of the quotes that described exactly what I went through as well:

"I was in a fog, a stunned state of disbelief. What happened here? I had already established my hopes and dreams for this beautiful young lady before she even breathed her first breath of air, and now they were shattered. All of a sudden I felt a heavy burden, as any parent would – how do I make it all better? Being a parent is already the toughest job in the world; let’s add another layer on top of that. A layer filled with the unknown- continual visits to doctors, specialists and therapists; skyrocketing medical bills; insurance adventures; IEP (Individualized Education Plan) meetings; heart wrenching worries, labels and surprises galore. During the days and months of this fog, there were more questions: Why? Why Me?, Why Her?, Why Us?".
Downs, Camilla (2013-04-26). D iz for Different: One Woman's Journey to Acceptance (Kindle Locations 325-333). Turning Views. Kindle Edition.



This one I am still reading. I loved this one because the child was so much more happy and verbal at Disney World. I have found Josiah's Disney World and it is swimming. Although his son was not always happy with Disney World just like Josiah has been completely thrown off with changes in swimming, it is still the best thing for them at the time.  

Guilt:

I seen a seen a posted on one of the pages I am following on Facebook. It describes what far so many parents with children with special needs in general feel.  With autism there are so many things that people say "cause" autism like vaccines for instance. I have heard so many people beat themselves up for giving their kid vaccines and now they have autism. They are so full of guilt they can not even be there for their child because they feel they did it to them, they caused it. I did vaccinate Josiah, do I feel if gave him autism? Absolutely not! First off from the time he was born he hardly gave eye contact and even for the kids who do not show obvious signs until they are two I still do not feel vaccines caused it. They brain goes through so many changes around that age and that is just when it decides to show its self more. Josiah is coming up on two and even though we have been seeing progress I have also notice somethings that he did not do before. Like toe walking at times and heel walking too(seriously do not know if some kids with autism do that). I hope and pray he does not regress when he turns two, but if he did then we will just deal with it all then. I am not going to ignore the present worrying about the future or feeling guilty about my past. I really do wish that more parents would not have to feel so guilty about their child's autism. We are so lucky that our insurance covers all the therapy other than the copay which is still twenty a day, five days a week, with fifty-two weeks in a year that is $5,200 just in therapy a year, which is less then what we were thinking. Then discovering that swimming is his "snow white" is another 70 a month, until we find out if we qualify for a scholarship. We are paid up until the end of August; thankfully, with a summer pass. I can see how without insurance a parent would feel guilt on the amount of therapy they can afford. Not spending enough time with my husband was a big one for me. I even had people tell me our relationship was not healthy because of the amount of time we spent in bed together(my thought was we had a healthy relationship before marriage without sex, why does  marriage need LOTS of sex to be considered healthy), due to complications for birth that caused great pain, hubby working second shift and just plain tired from the every day stress of a child with special needs (this has gotten a lot better with Josiah swimming!). Well, we are still together and he is more than understanding on his end, he knows that being a good Christian leader is doing what is best for the family as a whole and not just what is best for him(this is what I love about my husband so much). Oh and do not get me wrong on thinking that I do not believe a marriage does not need sex. I know God designed if for marriage. 80% of marriages with a child with autism end in divorce. We promised each other forever and we would like to keep it that way. Yes, we have had the discussion about that high number and we vowed again to each other and God to be that 20% Mark 10:7-8; "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh"!

32 Months-Hubby was taking a while to take picture so caught a half smile


Friday, May 31, 2013

Swimming Take Two/Some Background

Fairy day 21months

 Plans for the day/weekend:

We are able to go swimming again today. We have to wait until five when open swim starts. Until June 9 is time for when he can swim will very a little bit because open swim varies. The pool doea have toddler swim times, but they run they entire time he is in therapy. Hopefully he does fine with the change in time for the time being. Tomorrow we watch a couple of older kids we have not watched in a few months so hoping he does great with that still as well. We also will be going swimming tomorrow as well.

*UPDATE*

How swimming went today:


We went swimming and it was not too bad. He was still gripping so tight and not wanting me to put him down. Though he enjoyed the little water slide. One mother was shocked when she seen him go down the slide. The slide is in about a foot of water and when he got down he plopped into float right away. We also did it in the middle of the pool while people cooed over it in amazement. He swam to the wall and got my hand a couple of times(I did not back up to far or he would have gone straight into float), oh and he went for the stairs, but decided that floating would be better. He felt the stairs with his hand when they were under him but he did not flip, so I encouraged him a little by flipping him into swim again using his shoulders. He sadly got cold really quickly and then was not having any of it. We ended with a nice warm shower, nursing and then got to play in the shower a little while mommy was getting dressed. I LOVE that they had family changing/shower rooms. Made it easier to get ready without having to worry about him running off while I was trying to get dressed. Oh and discovered that Josiah is terrified of automatic paper towel dispensers. He could care less about the toilets, but the paper towel dispenser scared him...


Some background:

Since I am sitting waiting at LM`s appointment and do not want to read my book (The Vampire Armand by Anne Rice), I will fill in some summarized background knowledge on us. I guess I will start at the beginning of not my life, but the start of our little family.

How Jason and I met:

Prom in 2007

I met Jason, my  husband when I was almost 17. I met him through his brother and sister-in-law before they were married (I met both of them at a weekend long Christian event for teens, that we were all volunteering at). I had shortly before I met him made a promise between God and myself not to date for an entire year since I had just got out of an abusive relationship (I honestly think that is the first time I have used that term to describe it before, I have called it a bad relationship,  but not abuse like it truly was), that lasted five years. We would chat online for hours everyday with a couple of other friends or just the two of us. The first time we met was at 131 raceway, watching drag races. We started dating February 18th. I was the first girl Jason had dated and I really wished I could erase my past, but I learned I couldn't and that my past is what helped to mold me into who I am today. God even used the threat on my life from my ex, because of the threat I went the weekend event even when I wasn't feeling well and I have already explained the rest.

Started dating/engagement:

One of our first dates together was my Junior prom, so we have the pictures from the event, to help us remember the moment, forever.  Fast forward eighteen months into the relationship we got engaged,  just before I started freshman year of collage. It was August eighteenth, at a park during a picnic lunch, with subs and cherries.  I can till remember it like it was yesterday.  We got engaged even though we knew it wouldn't be until sometime after I turned twenty-one for our wedding date because of another promise I made to myself and God before we met. During our engagement we went through some really tough times but even through it all we were still together.

The wedding:

June 18, 2010 was the date we planned to get married in a park by our  pastor, with close friends and family.  Two days before the park flooded so the location was switched to our church.  With help from some church members we set up the wedding in the new location.  We had a beautiful wedding with pictures and video. For our honeymoon we went to  Grand Haven for a fountain light show and time at the beach. Then farther north for more beach and walking.

Loss and pregnancy:


Sometime in July we made the decision to expand our family.  After the loss of a pregnancy,  we were pregnant again the due date was set for August. The pregnancy was uneventful other then a bad case of the flu around thirteen weeks in. June seven came around and I had three hours of contractions. Almost two weeks ago Josiah(then known as little monkey)  had dropped completely into position,  so much so that we couldn't get an accurate ultrasound measurement or picture of his head. The OB made the decision not to check for dilation and said see you in two weeks (needless to say he was born three days before the appointment).
33weeks along

Here comes Josiah:

Waiting to see how far dilated I was at the hospital
July 8 I started contractions before the kids I was babysitting at the time got picked up, I thought he was just putting pressure on me because it felt fine when swaying.  We went food shopping.  We got done and went to get my mom from a store. I couldn't stand still because of the pressure.  I talked with my mom how I never said I wanted him to come and even told him he was not allowed to come until thirty-seven weeks or later since thirty-six and earlier is considered premature birth. Then I joked that if he kept up whatever he was doing that I wouldn't know how I could make it to forty weeks. Well, by midnight that night I came to the conclusion that it just might be labor I was in. We waited and timed and watched. Decided around 1 in the morning to go in to the hospital.  I was all smiles because the pressure had stopped when I got busy packing.  We almost stayed home because it stopped.  When we got there they took their time, I mean I didn't look to be in labor so they thought it was false labor and told me so. They hooked me up and discovered I was having contractions and again stated I was probably in early labor due to the grin still on my face. Well when they decided to check me I was seven cm. Then took samples of blood and urine to check for possible reasons for early labor (nothing was ever found). I was checked again and was eight and a half cm. I was checked into a room, Jason got the bags and my birth team started to show up. My water was broke at 7 since labor had slowed, but I was too far to be sent home. Things progressed rather quickly from there. With only three pushes my beautiful, small baby boy was born, by a natural, medication free birth. He was 5lbs 12oz and 18.5in long. He got a 9-10 apgar  score and had no need for the nicu. The birth was perfect up until the OB pulled on the placenta causing my bag of waters not to come out like God designed. Then he made the decision to scrape me out(like a D and C, but I was FULLY awake and no pain relief) while everyone cooed over LM, so no focal point or other natural help. The affects of that act on our sex life lasted nearly TWO years. After some issues we figured out breast feeding (He was to be the only one to latch and if I helped he would unlatch and do it himself all by himself). Three days after birth we went home.





The first year:

Ultra sound at 1 month old
Build a bear firefighter costume-almost 3months


















Everything went rather smoothly the first month, but then I started to notice the amount of throw up he had and the force at which he threw up was unusual. We went into the pediatrician and she sent us to an  urgent ultra sound to see if he had pyloric stenosis (a stomach condition some babies get, that requires immediate surgery), we were thanking God for sure when we found out it was not that. We ended up going on a dairy free diet which helped a ton. By six months I got off of the dairy free diet. A little before this time Josiah began eating every half hour and was really lethargic(not moving that much when awake). After several visits to the pediatrician and a lactation consultant and then finally seeing our pediatrician we were sent to an ear, nose and throat pediatrician to check for tongue tie. It turned out that he had one and a lip tie as well. They were both cut in office at six months. His eating changed a little and he became less lethargic. He still had some eating issues and by seven months we started to see a oral therapist. By nine months they discovered he was extremely anemic and he was put on a high dose of iron for a little while which he is still on iron in a multi-vitamin plus iron to this day. Nine months is also when we discovered that he was having bad acid reflux as well and thought it was strange he did not protest about it other then in eating small frequent meals. He was started on prevacid after trying two other medicines that did not work(he still takes this to this day as well). after fixing both of these problems Josiah started to crawl. At eleven months Josiah had his hypospadias surgery and began his life of climbing on everything. Something we knew was coming since he was born. Hypospadias is a defect to the penis. It causes it to be crooked sometimes, the hole to be in the wrong place, and a hooded foreskin that can be fixed(found this out after surgery) in most cases if the parents wish to(in our case the urologist said it was not fixable, so he did not even give us that option).
After surgery-11months
Eating his birthday cupcake



 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The second year:

 
Showing off  his cloth-12m
Sitting in a wood shoe-14m




Halloween(zookeeper giraffe)-15moths
In the beginning of the second year I joked with Josiah that he was not allowed to have anything wrong for the next year since we had gone through so many different things in the first year. This hopeful thinking of course would not be the case, but we love him so much either way. By thirteen months I was really starting to be concerned about little things, but could not put my finger on what could be the cause. When he was fifteen months and still not walking or talking/babbling I got a hold of an early on program. By the time they came out he started to walk at sixteen almost seventeen months and they came to see us at eighteen months. We started speech once a week. We talked to them about autism and they said they do not do anything about looking into it until a child is in preschool. I was not happy with this answer, since I know how much a child learns in the first three years of life and that it is better to catch things early (working on a bachelors of early childhood education and I am so close to being done!). When we went to the eighteen month appointment I brought up autism which the pediatrician was prepared for as the m chat gets filled out at that appointment. She too was very concerned about autism and recommended us to BRAINS which did not take our insurance. I discovered hope network and brought it up with her, she was actually going to recommend us to them that day too. At twenty one months we started swimming, five days a week for ten minutes, which was really awesome because it just about stopped all of his tantrums and climbing. We also went to the evaluation at hope network then as well. We were asked a ton of questions left the room for five minutes and then came back to a rearranged room. Josiah just about fully shut down because of this. after prompting  different behaviors that they were unable to get we left the room again for five minutes. The next time they took just him back and he cried for nearly an hour. He was diagnosed with PDD-NOS (pervasive developmental disorder-not otherwise specified), which is on the autism spectrum. PDD-NOS is not less or more sever then regular autism. He was given this diagnoses because he does not have repetitive behaviors. Two weeks later after insurance approval he started therapy there at five days a week for two hours. He is now 22 months and done with swimming lessons, but still has speech and ABA therapy.
Climbing on window 20months
Playing at Java Gym-18months

20months